Delerious Rantings And So On..., There is sex after a mastectomy...

19
Apr

There is sex after a mastectomy…

When you have scars littering your breasts, it is often times really hard to think that anyone could possibly find you attractive. Being a single girl… trying to find someone who can accept you, scars and all, is not an easy task. No matter how comfortable you think you are with the surgery, it is hard, at times impossible, to imagine yourself as a being of sexual desire.

I remember about 2 or 3 weeks after surgery, I had a my first hardcore emotional breakdown because I could not even begin to imagine anyone at that point actually finding me in any way attractive.

I’m not even flat chested and I cannot imagine how much more complex this whole concept must be for women who have a delayed time period between their mastectomy and their reconstruction. I know I should feel very fortunate that when hidden with a bra, my breasts look pretty damned normal!

I’m not a sexually inhibited person… to be quite frank I actually abhor clothing… but even I can confess that my first sexual adventure post surgery, I was not yet ready to display my scars yet… maybe someday in the future… thank god for a little lacey number which revealed just enough to make me sexy.

So still to this day the only people who have actually seen the scars are my doctors and my mother who helped take care of me post surgery. And that will probably stay that way for awhile.

But… the point of this rambling is… there is sex after a mastectomy… at times it is so hard to imagine!!! And I’m am sure my doctors would freaking kill me for the things I did over the weekend. 10 1/2 weeks post surgery (technically I was supposed to wait 3 months - but you know - things happen) LOL

And I must say… the sex was absolutely effin amazing… like AH-MAY-ZING!

BUT… the best part was that when my right tissue expander shifted midway thru our debauchery, he wasn’t really freaked when I had to stop to jostle it back into its appropriate place… and that… him not being freaked out by my lack of normality… was the best part of all :-)